My Curly Hair Journey

I started straightening my hair in high school. When I was a child I had very thick curly hair, that often looked frizzy because my mom didn’t really know how to care for it. I used to get made fun of in school for my wild hair and “fro” as some of my classmates would call it. When I got to high school I learned how to “tame” my curls using cheap gel, mousse and hairspray that made my hair look curly, but it was also very crunchy. For special occasions I would go to the salon to get my hair straightened with these big iron rods that would fry my hair, but leave it so smooth and straight. I always loved my straight hair because it was not only different, but I felt that long straight hair was more beautiful than the natural curls that grew out of my head.

When I became an adult I bought my own flat irons and would flat iron my hair often. It took me over an hour to wash, dry and flat iron my hair and I did it about 3 times about week. Over the years I would wear my hair straight more often than not, and had dyed it blonde, red, purple, you name it! I had severely damaged my hair with the color and the heat to the point where my hair looked more dry and wavy than curly.

In September of 2018 I decided I wanted my curls back after I saw a pic on Instagram of a girl with the most beautiful long dark curls I had ever seen. I stopped flat ironing regularly, only once maybe every 4 months, and started deep conditioning weekly and using curly products. I also chopped off a few inches of dead hair and continue to get regular cuts. Through trial and error I learned which products and routines worked for me and started my @curly_mello Instagram page and YouTube channel to share my experiences transitioning to natural hair, share tips and learn from other curlies as well. If you have damaged your natural curls and want them back, I’m here to tell you it is possible. It just takes time, commitment and patience!

If you have any questions on transitioning to natural hair, feel free to shoot me an email!

2 thoughts on “My Curly Hair Journey

  1. Hi!! I’m a friend of Paula and saw this link. I have struggled with my curls my whole life! I’m 43, and always get terrible haircuts! Can you tell me where you get yours cut? I live in Meriden, but willing to travel for a good curly cut! Yours is beautiful!!
    Thanks, Jen


    1. Hi Jen! Thanks for checking out my website 😀 I get my hair cut from a long time friend/stylist Gynora Cardona who works at the JC Penny Salon in the Waterbury mall. She’s amazing and has helped me on my curly hair journey. Just call the JC Penny salon and ask for her. Tell her Melissa Farmer referred you!


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